Regardless of the level of harmony that is present during and after a divorce, there is no escaping the fact that the children's time will now have to be split between divorced parents. For some parents, agreeing on a visitation plan can be a breeze in comparison to only seeing their children on occasion. In addition, it can often be difficult to reconnect with children after several days or weeks apart. Family therapists say that knowing your children's dominant sense and reacting appropriately is the first step in rekindling a formerly close relationship.

If your child is tactile, begin your time together with an activity, such as an impromptu basketball game or a craft project. Don't focus on talking during that time, but wait until your child feels comfortable enough to begin a conversation. Then, follow his or her lead, ensuring that you are not bombarding them with questions. If possible, make your home similar to the other parent's home, especially in regards to the child's bedroom and belongings. For example, use the same size bed, same sheets and pillow, and the same toothbrush.

For visual children, it can be helpful to keep them visually involved in your life. For example, show them photos of the events and activities that you have participated in since you last saw your child. In exchange, if they show you any photos, artwork, or any other visual expression, ensure that you express an interest in the visual and in what it depicts.

We will continue this discussion later this week with tips on how to reestablish a connection with auditory and taste and smell children.

Source: Kansas City Star, "Divorce solutions; reconnecting with your child", Priscilla J. Dunstan, 7 March 2011