Earlier this week, we began a discussion of a few strategic tactics divorced parents can employ in order to reestablish a connection with their child or children after several days or weeks apart. For most parents, the strain of a divorce and the resulting child custody agreement can create some strain and awkwardness at the beginning of scheduled visitation time. Knowing your child's dominant sense can make the time together more meaningful and memorable

When beginning visitation with an auditory child, it would seem that talking would be the best way to reconnect. Not so, family therapists say. Instead, try to reconnect with the child by engaging in subtle auditory rituals such as playing a meaningful or favorite song in the car during the drive home. Allow the child to begin and direct the conversation, and be cautious about your tone of voice and other auditory signals in the first few moments of the visit as it will set the tone for your entire time together. Remain engaged in the conversation without asking too many questions.

Children who have dominant taste and smell senses often crave some sort of 'proof' that the parent has continued to think and be concerned about them during the time apart. Therefore, a parent may find it useful to give the child a small gift at the beginning of the visitation time. If the child reciprocates with a gift or something like a drawing from school, make sure to display it prominently in your home. In addition, stay up to speed on the child's interests, such as a sport or music or a toy. These children seek harmony, so work to maintain (or at least appear to maintain) peace with the other parent when in the child's presence.

Source: Kansas City Star, "Divorce solutions; reconnecting with your child", Priscilla J. Dunstan, 7 March 2011