For those of us who are separated or divorced, February 14 can be a difficult day. And whether this is your first, fifth, or 20th post-divorce Valentine's Day, it may seem tempting to approach the day with bitterness and resentment. But while it is certainly normal to experience feelings of sadness and loneliness, it may benefit you to try to see the bright side of the day, regardless of your marital situation.
In an article in the Huffington Post, divorce party planner Lois Tarter suggests several ways to remain positive on Valentine's Day after a divorce. First, she says, try to focus on the love you do have in your life, such as the love of your children, family and friends, and the love and gratitude you have for yourself after surviving a difficult divorce.
In addition, Tarter says, the fact that you do not have a significant other does not mean that you can't celebrate Valentine's Day. One way is to focus on yourself. Buy a bouquet of your favorite flowers, pour yourself a glass of wine and order dinner from your favorite restaurant or make your favorite meal. You can even turn your house into a mini-spa and spend the night relaxing and pampering yourself.
Another way to celebrate is to focus on others. If you have children, think of a fun activity you can do together, such as making cookies or doing a craft. You could also get involved in the community by volunteering at a homeless shelter or making dinner for an elderly neighbor.
Regardless of what you do on Valentine's Day, it is important to remember that it is just another day. Come tomorrow, all of the hearts and chocolates and diamond commercials will be just a memory - until next year.
Source: Huffington Post, "Divorced, But Loving Valentine's Day," Lois Tarter, Feb. 14, 2012
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